"The world needs all kind of minds."
This is the story of Ray, his mom, his dad, his grand mother and his Uncle Noor. His Aunty Nellie, Uncle Ande and cousin Nelson live three houses down the road...
I understand this Please do not criticize this couple. Our family is having the exact proplem with my 18 year old nephew, who was diagnosed with High Functioning Autism when he was 16. Presently his mom was told to live elsewhere by the court because he was violent towards her. He only started medication recently after the anger and violence became worse. Even with medication, he is still angry and upset most of the time. We contacted our MP and MPP, but they could not provide any immediate help. This family is also seeking help desperately because they cannot cope anymore. They cannot keep calling the police and having him arrested all the time. That is not the solution. He needs to be in a facility where there are professionals that know how to deal with autism. His parents cannot provide that help for him. Anyone who can help us, please contact me...Thank YouMar 30, 2012 3:40 PM Agree (13) Disagree (1)
Help for Parents This is a continuation from my previous post. It would be so helpful if someone can please advise the parents with violent autistic teens where to get help. Over the last 3 years, my nephew was taken to the hospital 4 times by the police. The first time he was kept there for 4 weeks. The second, third and fourth time he was kept for 1 week and then only for a few days. The fourth time his parents pleaded with the hospital that they cannot have him at home. The hospital sent him to a group home which was voluntarily. During the night, he left the home and tried to get a taxi to go home. The home called the police to find him. The police returned him and the next day his parents were told they have to take him home. He gets extremely demanding , then aggressive and violent . He gets so upset over small things, for example, why is his dad walking in the hallway at the same time as him. He punched walls and threw chairs at his parents. Sometimes his violence was so much, his mom would lock herself up in a closet and secretly call family and relatives for help. Just for the peace his parents have to constantly give in to him. He is in alternative non-credit courses in schools but seldom attend classes. Since, he was 16 until recently he refused all help, including seeing his psychiatrist or any form of counseling or medication. He could not be forced to see his psychiatrist , or meet a counselor or a case worker because that is the law. He has to willingly agree to all of these help. His parents pleaded for help and all they were told is to 'call 911'. They didn't want to see their son taken away in hand cuffs to a police cell, because they knew that was not the place for him. Finally, about one month ago. He was hitting his mom one morning about 6 am after he woke her up demanding food. She didn't make the food good enough for him and he started to punch and hit her. His dad decided to called the police with our encouragement, and he was arrested. It was an extremely difficult thing for a parent to do. He stayed ina cell for one night. The next morning he was granted bail and allowed to return home on condition that his mom lives elsewhere. She has not been home since then. At the bail hearing, his parents cried and begged for him not to be sent home again. Since then he has agreed to see his psychiatrist and has attended one behaviour management course so far. He is still demanding and violent at home. Now there is only one parent left to cope with him. His next court date is with the mental health court in 2 weeks. We are not sure what the court will decide at that time. In the mean time, his home is in complete chaos and the only solution is to have him arrested again and let him stay in a police cell until the next court date. Apr 1, 2012 12:33 AM Agree (1) Disagree (0)
Aunty Nellie's Comments in the Toronto Star
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Please do not criticize this couple. Our family is having the exact proplem with my 18 year old nephew, who was diagnosed with High Functioning Autism when he was 16. Presently his mom was told to live elsewhere by the court because he was violent towards her. He only started medication recently after the anger and violence became worse. Even with medication, he is still angry and upset most of the time. We contacted our MP and MPP, but they could not provide any immediate help. This family is also seeking help desperately because they cannot cope anymore. They cannot keep calling the police and having him arrested all the time. That is not the solution. He needs to be in a facility where there are professionals that know how to deal with autism. His parents cannot provide that help for him. Anyone who can help us, please contact me...Thank YouMar 30, 2012 3:40 PM
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Help for Parents
This is a continuation from my previous post. It would be so helpful if someone can please advise the parents with violent autistic teens where to get help. Over the last 3 years, my nephew was taken to the hospital 4 times by the police. The first time he was kept there for 4 weeks. The second, third and fourth time he was kept for 1 week and then only for a few days. The fourth time his parents pleaded with the hospital that they cannot have him at home. The hospital sent him to a group home which was voluntarily. During the night, he left the home and tried to get a taxi to go home. The home called the police to find him. The police returned him and the next day his parents were told they have to take him home. He gets extremely demanding , then aggressive and violent . He gets so upset over small things, for example, why is his dad walking in the hallway at the same time as him. He punched walls and threw chairs at his parents. Sometimes his violence was so much, his mom would lock herself up in a closet and secretly call family and relatives for help. Just for the peace his parents have to constantly give in to him. He is in alternative non-credit courses in schools but seldom attend classes. Since, he was 16 until recently he refused all help, including seeing his psychiatrist or any form of counseling or medication. He could not be forced to see his psychiatrist , or meet a counselor or a case worker because that is the law. He has to willingly agree to all of these help. His parents pleaded for help and all they were told is to 'call 911'. They didn't want to see their son taken away in hand cuffs to a police cell, because they knew that was not the place for him. Finally, about one month ago. He was hitting his mom one morning about 6 am after he woke her up demanding food. She didn't make the food good enough for him and he started to punch and hit her. His dad decided to called the police with our encouragement, and he was arrested. It was an extremely difficult thing for a parent to do. He stayed ina cell for one night. The next morning he was granted bail and allowed to return home on condition that his mom lives elsewhere. She has not been home since then. At the bail hearing, his parents cried and begged for him not to be sent home again. Since then he has agreed to see his psychiatrist and has attended one behaviour management course so far. He is still demanding and violent at home. Now there is only one parent left to cope with him. His next court date is with the mental health court in 2 weeks. We are not sure what the court will decide at that time. In the mean time, his home is in complete chaos and the only solution is to have him arrested again and let him stay in a police cell until the next court date. Apr 1, 2012 12:33 AM
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